Is Marriage an Achievement? The Real Answer, Finally!

Whosoever said marriage is not an achievement, didn’t have a good one. Good Marriages are an Achievement.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA

When your business is bad you can't call your business an achievement, but when it succeeds you call it the best achievement of your life.

That's the same with marriage. Only when it's not working can you say it's NOT an achievement. If it's working, marriage is an achievement.

So when you say your bad marriage is NOT an achievement, that would be true since you have everyday mishaps to prove it.

However, it will be only true for you but not true for the concept called marriage itself.

You would be holding a truth but NOT the truth.

It's Like Finding a Business Partner

If you have a Burger Recipe and manage to get MacDonald's as your distribution partner across the world, wouldn't that be one of your best business achievements?

Life needs a strategic partner just as much as your business does.

Finding that partner for your life is as much an achievement as is finding a distribution partner for your business.

If you marry wrong, it’s okay to feel like the whole search and commitment thing was a waste of time.

BUT If you marry right, you will realize that you have made the best strategic partnership of your life.

But I Understand Why You Say Marriage is NOT an Achievement

1. There is More to Life…

You don’t want to just grow up, get married, grow old, and die. You believe there is more to life and you are right.

My FREE book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye even says

We are NOT born for marriage; we marry for what we are born for.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA | How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye

That means marriage is only meant to be your resource of life NOT your reason for life.

It is meant to be a support structure for what we do in life NOT to be what we do in life per se.

That's why you should marry a partner who complements what you are living for.

So if you believe there is more to life than marriage you are absolutely right!

The problem is believing that marriage is NOT important in helping you live a richer more satisfying life. That statement is half-truth and half-lie.

A future built on a lie won’t make you happy.

A teaspoon of lies can ruin your life far much more than a bucket of truth could build it.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA

The worst lie is not the one you hear from others, but one you tell yourself. 

And the most dangerous lie is one that has an element of truth in it.

This lesson will show you the truth and help you delete the lie…

But before that, here is the second reason you could be thinking marriage is NOT an achievement.

2. You Are Late…

Finding someone can take so long that you end up asking yourself "is marriage an achievement after all?"

Probably your biological clock is ticking and everybody you meet keeps popping up that irritating question “Hey when are you getting married?”

That question follows you everywhere – whether at church or at the mall, “Hmm, by the way, you are married now right?”

You want to shout “It’s none of your business!!!” But you pretend to be polite and say, “or not yet”

Then You go home and ask yourself “But why me – why isn’t it my time yet?”

When you can’t get something that you want badly, you find ways to make wanting it seem bad!

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA

So you just tell yourself – “marriage is not achievement.”

But What's Wrong with Believing that Marriage is NOT an Achievement?

1. You Are Decreasing Your Chances of Finding a Good One

Some women look at their success in careers and businesses and thank their husbands for it. The men in their lives became their pillars of strength and their marriages became iron to their spines.

Then there are some who wished to flap their wings and fly but had husbands who chained them to the ground…

Just as I wrote in that free book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye…

When you find the right person love is paradise, but when you find the wrong one love is pain.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA | How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye

It's NOT about marriage, it's about who you marry.

Marriage can be the best investment of your life, if done at the right time with the right one, with you also being the right person.

Sadly,

The more you believe marriage is nothing, the less effort, and wisdom you will apply to get a good partner.

Your brain won't work hard to attain something it calls a "nothing."

So by believing it's nothing, you increase your playfulness in selecting your life partner.

That multiplies your chances of getting a bad partner.

So it's healthier to search with the belief that marriage is an achievement so that you diligently make sure you make it the profitable achievement it is meant to be.

Let's get deeper into that point…

2. You Cant’ Keep What You Don’t Value

Devaluing someone doesn’t take away their value, it only takes away your opportunity to extract value from them.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA

The same goes for good marriages…

Marriage doesn't just happen – it takes commitment, sacrifice, and a whole of maturity. If you don't value marriage, you can get it but can't keep it. You can't even extract the best from it.

I strongly believe marriage is underrated in our generation.

Later on, I will show the immense benefits of marriage. It is sad how much we are missing those benefits simply because we are failing to marry right.

Let’s Correct This…

1. Marriage is an Achievement but it’s NOT the Only Achievement a Person Should Have

It’s good for a girl to think marriage is an achievement, the problem is when she thinks it is the only achievement she was born to make.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA

Yes, getting married is an Achievement. The problem is some girls make it the only achievement they aim for in life.

Aim for other achievements as well - have a career, business, or political leadership!

Change the world, be an inventor!

Just don’t deny that getting married, to a good person with the right principles of keeping a good marriage running – is also something worth cherishing and enjoying.

2. Failure to Get Married Is NOT Failure in Life

Otherwise, all Nuns, Monks, and Priests would be failures too – and so would be Jesus, Mother Theresa, or Isaac Newton.

Even if you are not married, marriage is still an achievement.

Only that it's an achievement you haven't yet made and might NOT even want to make. Just as winning the Olympics is an achievement you haven't yet made (and might never want to make).

The truth is your life can go on pretty well without it - we can't deny that - (just as much as not winning the Olympics is not ending your life in any way right now, neither is it making you any miserable).

So Marriage is an Achievement - but it's not forced - and it's not like life is bad without it - you can always find other achievements that make you happy.

3. Money Is NOT the Only Achievement in Life Either

To a beggar on the streets money is everything, but ask a millionaire who has just signed divorce papers, he will tell you money can’t buy you love.

Psychological Studies show that at the end of your life what will matter to you the most is not how much money you made or how many hours you spent at the office – what will matter the most is who came into your life, who left and who stayed.

- MOFFAT MACHINGURA

It’s a material world, but you are a social being. Your soul flourishes in intimacy, and it flounders in isolation.

Relationships mean more to your soul than money does, even when you think otherwise.

4. Married People Live Longer than Unmarried People

I promised to give you the benefits of marriage at the beginning of this lesson. According to several studies across over 50 years of research, the Family Research Council found that...

• Married people on average, live longer and are less likely to commit suicide than those who are not married.
• On average, married people enjoy greater wealth than unmarried people—and the longer they stay married, the more their wealth accumulates.
• Married couples also report having more sex (frequency) and more satisfying sex (quality) than unmarried people.
• Marriage is the safest relationship for women. A 2002 study found that cohabiting couples reported rates of physical aggression in their relationships three times higher than those reported by married couples.

So there you have it. If you have been asking "Is marriage an achievement," - it seems it is one of the safest, most strategic, and most profitable partnerships you may ever make in life.

If done right, marriage is an achievement.

Live, Laugh, and Love!

Be honest with yourself: If you were to find a good person, and successfully build a happy home and family through hard work and dedication - Looking back at the end of your life - would you say that was nothing? 

Wouldn't you safely say your marriage was an achievement?

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